Today’s Moment in Synchronicity

Whether or not my post from earlier today has any weight in truth or something I pulled out of thin air, a few things I mentioned had eerie semblance to a blog post by Megan of today: The Perfect Match? INFJs and ENxPs

For the record, the article itself really resonated with me… But here are a few things that struck me as “synchronistic” (is that even a word?). It is! I just checked. ;)

Megan writes,

“ENxPs are Perceivers. While their spontaneity can be initially attractive to an INFJ, over time the J/P difference can cause conflict in the relationship. The INFJ will become overwhelmed always being the one who has to take charge when it comes to making plans, and the ENxP may view the INFJ as bossy.”

“Overwhelmed” is the word I used to describe how I can feel at times, particularly due to the spontaneity, though I did not call that out specifically…

Another moment in Megan’s writing that struck a chord with what I had in mind was,

“ENFPs can have a hard time understanding INFJs feelings, and vice versa. ENFPs use Introverted Feeling, and any relationship between an Introverted Feeler and an Extroverted Feeler is going to come with issues. INFJs prefer to process their feelings verbally, while ENFPs prefer to process internally. INFJs may think the ENFP is being selfish after making a Fi-based decision, because it might not take into consideration the feelings of others (Fe).”

Although, I didn’t have a grasp on it, this is exactly what I had in mind when I wrote,

“They don’t always seem in-tune with how the solution affects others as long as, to them, the solution “works”… “

I didn’t know how to articulate it, but Megan has a stronger grasp on the concepts so she writes much more intelligently on the matter… I merely had a few random thoughts I wanted to quickly post, but when I read this, I equated my

“They don’t always seem in-tune with how the solution affects others…”

with her

“INFJs may think the ENFP is being selfish after making a Fi-based decision…”

(I had to read about Fi/Fe after reading Megan’s post, but, yes… I think I have a slightly better understanding of those functions now.)

Okay, so there were only a couple items I noticed,… but it struck me as almost serendipitous that what I wrote today, to some (a tiny?) degree was validated. I don’t write often so I think that fact plays into the fact that it seemed so… synchronistic to read Megan’s article today. ^_^

Are These ENFP Traits?

… Or am I just making something out of nothing?

The two ENFPs I’ve known have similar qualities and I’m trying to determine if it’s an ENFP thing or at least traits that possibly stem from being so. Both are from completely different circles (personal vs. professional), but in learning that both may be ENFP, I had a real A-HA! moment in realizing the similarities…

In two brief descriptions… they seem to have very I-CAN-DO-IT attitudes toward any challenge and also be very, “There! I fixed it!”

Let me explain…

I Can Do It!

No matter what the challenge, they seem to be whole-heartedly up for it, especially if it’s tied to personal interests (They can go into “crusade” mode if that’s the case). Self-sacrifice, late nights, working to exhaustion, sometimes throwing caution to the wind are all things I’ve seen in both.Many times, they succeed and get all the applause they deserve. When they don’t, they pause, grieve a bit, and quickly move on. (I wish I could do this… Failures stay with me forever… =/)

There! I fixed it!

They’re masters of hacks. When working toward a goal, they try to achieve it no matter what the means. Well, as long as it isn’t going against their core values. They have very “There! I fixed it!” attitudes, often involving lots of duct tape (literally and figuratively) at the expense of aesthetics or how it may be perceived (at least until someone points it out).

They don’t always seem in-tune with how the solution affects others as long as, to them, the solution “works” (because sometimes, it doesn’t) and they can say they’ve accomplished what they set out to do.

Side Note

Both ENFPs bug me in similar ways, but I also get/got along with them very well. I had a very close personal relationship with one. The other, I know in a professional capacity. I can be overwhelmed by them both regarding different things, but get the same feeling when that happens. I love them both as people and would love to know more ENFPs.

Also, they both genuinely care about my well-being with greatest concern. They’ve both given me a lot…

Again, I don’t know if this is an ENFP thing or just some completely unrelated traits… I’m just trying to understand if this is common among ENFPs.